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Tuesday, February 27, 2007

Off to Texas

I just wanted to let everyone know that my dad is going into surgery tomorrow morning, so please keep him in your thoughts and prayers. Hopefully, he will return home better than he's been in the last three years. Now, I am off to Houston, TX to M.D. Anderson (where he is having his surgery). To check on his status, go to Patient Network.

~J

Thursday, February 15, 2007

Things we learn from Oprah

My parents bought be a book called Smart Women Finish Rich to try and help me as I navigate the adult world of business and finance. I think they figured that I won't listen to their advice (which I do, for the most part), but I would have to listen to a book, right? Eh, I guess.

So, problematic title aside (not all smart women want to be rich or have that as an end goal, etc.), I flipped through the book, curious what it could offer me. While I would actually recommend it to my fellow early twenty-somethings (male and female alike), one thing in particular stuck out to me. The last chapter sort of wraps everything up with the "12 Commandments." The last commandment is, "Be grateful." The idea of gratitude is something I have been trying to keep in the forefront of my mind lately. Especially in difficult times and times of uncertainty and anxiety, it is easy to get caught up in the "why me?" frame of mind. "Why are people mean to me?" "Why is my dad sick?" "Why can't I see my boyfriend whenever I want?" Blah, blah blah. Smart Women author, David Bach, takes a note from Oprah and suggests listing 50 things you are grateful for, share the list with people who are undoubtedly on it, and revisit it whenever you feel low or weak. Sadly, I can't think of 50 things off the top of my head, so I will start with 10 and add to it as I think of other things. Here we go:

I am grateful for...

1. Having a loving family who is supportive of whatever I want to do.
2. Having a small but incredibly close knit group of friends that I can count on, no matter what.
3. Having a wonderful relationship with someone I admire and who cares about me.
4. Being fortunate enough to not have to struggle financially. At least not significantly.
5. Being fortunate enough to live in a country where I don't have to worry about worshipping the way I want, voting the way I want, or live in fear of violence every time I leave my house.
6. Having basic comforts like food, clothing, and a house, which is more than many, many people have.
7. Not only have the basics, but also being blessed to be able to treat myself to a nice meal, new toy (book, CD, DVD), or new clothes every once in a while.
8. Having a car that is reliable and gets me from my house to work to Bakersfield to see some of the aforementioned family and friends.
9. Living in a day and age where things like cancer are no longer necessarily a death sentence.
10. Living in a society that is trying to understand mental illness and are coming up with new ways to treat it everyday.

This is just the beginning of my list, and I hope to add to it more over the next few posts, though I realize that even having 10 things to be grateful for is a profound blessing. Anyhoo, that is enough gushing for now.

My computer is legally dead, so it might be a while before I can update again. But, next time I will update about my current job situation (unemployed, but hopeful) and Valentine's Day (a wonderful disaster).

I hope everyone is having a great week.

~J

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Saturday, February 03, 2007

And Father of the Year goes to...

I found this article on http://patient-network.com, a kind of MySpace for people with illnesses where they can support each other and update their friends and family on their status. I am in the midst of creating a profile for my dad so that when he is in the hospital in the next few weeks, I can keep his profile, and everyone else, updated on how he is doing. I will write a post with more details about my dad's situation at a later date. For now, enjoy this story about another amazing dad.

From Sports Illustrated, By Rick Reilly

I try to be a good father. Give my kids mulligans. Work nights to pay For their text messaging. Take them to swimsuit shoots. But compared with Dick Hoyt, I suck.

Eighty-five times he's pushed his disabled son, Rick, 26.2 miles in Marathons. Eight times he's not only pushed him 26.2 miles in a Wheelchair but also towed him 2.4 miles in a dinghy while swimming and Pedaled him 112 miles in a seat on the handlebars--all in the same day. Dick's also pulled him cross-country skiing, taken him on his back Mountain climbing and once hauled him across the U.S. On a bike. Makes Taking your son bowling look a little lame, right? And what has Rick done for his father? Not much--except save his life.

This love story began in Winchester , Mass. , 43 years ago, when Rick Was strangled by the umbilical cord during birth, leaving him Brain-damaged and unable to control his limbs. "He'll be a vegetable the rest of his life;'' Dick says doctors told him And his wife, Judy, when Rick was nine months old. ``Put him in an Institution.'' But the Hoyts weren't buying it. They noticed the way Rick's eyes Followed them around the room.

When Rick was 11 they took him to the Engineering department at Tufts University and asked if there was Anything to help the boy communicate. ``No way,'' Dick says he was told. ``There's nothing going on in his brain.'' "Tell him a joke,'' Dick countered. They did. Rick laughed. Turns out a Lot was going on in his brain. Rigged up with a computer that allowed Him to control the cursor by touching a switch with the side of his Head, Rick was finally able to communicate. First words? ``Go Bruins!'' And after a high school classmate was paralyzed in an accident and the School organized a charity run for him, Rick pecked out, ``Dad, I want To do that.'' Yeah, right. How was Dick, a self-described ``porker'' who never ran More than a mile at a time, going to push his son five miles? Still, he Tried. ``Then it was me who was handicapped,'' Dick says. ``I was sore For two weeks.''

That day changed Rick's life. ``Dad,'' he typed, ``when we were running, It felt like I wasn't disabled anymore!'' And that sentence changed Dick's life. He became obsessed with giving Rick that feeling as often as he could. He got into such hard-belly Shape that he and Rick were ready to try the 1979 Boston Marathon. ``No way,'' Dick was told by a race official. The Hoyts weren't quite a Single runner, and they weren't quite a wheelchair competitor. For a few Years Dick and Rick just joined the massive field and ran anyway, then They found a way to get into the race Officially: In 1983 they ran another marathon so fast they made the Qualifying time for Boston the following year.

Then somebody said, ``Hey, Dick, why not a triathlon?'' How's a guy who never learned to swim and hadn't ridden a bike since he Was six going to haul his 110-pound kid through a triathlon? Still, Dick Tried. Now they've done 212 triathlons, including four grueling 15-hour Ironmans in Hawaii . It must be a buzzkill to be a 25-year-old stud Getting passed by an old guy towing a grown man in a dinghy, don't you Think? Hey, Dick, why not see how you'd do on your own? ``No way,'' he says. Dick does it purely for ``the awesome feeling'' he gets seeing Rick with A cantaloupe smile as they run, swim and ride together.

This year, at ages 65 and 43, Dick and Rick finished their 24th Boston Marathon, in 5,083rd place out of more than 20,000 starters. Their best Time? Two hours, 40 minutes in 1992--only 35 minutes off the world Record, which, in case you don't keep track of these things, happens to Be held by a guy who was not pushing another man in a wheelchair at the Time. ``No question about it,'' Rick types. ``My dad is the Father of the Century.''

And Dick got something else out of all this too. Two years ago he had a Mild heart attack during a race. Doctors found that one of his arteries Was 95% clogged. ``If you hadn't been in such great shape,'' One doctor told him, ``you probably would've died 15 years ago.'' So, in a way, Dick and Rick saved each other's life.

Rick, who has his own apartment (he gets home care) and works in Boston, and Dick, retired from the military and living in Holland, Mass. , always find ways to be together. They give speeches around the country and compete in some backbreaking race every weekend, including this Father's Day. That night, Rick will buy his dad dinner, but the thing he really wants to give him is a gift he can never buy. ``The thing I'd most like,'' Rick types, ``is that my dad sit in the chair and I push him once.''

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